Personal Bill Of Rights

I found this in my drafts as one of the posts I never published, so I decided to set it free.

1. I have the right to make choices that enrich my quality of life.

2. I have the right to self-actualize.

3. I have the right to express my pain and sadness without feeling selfish or guilty.

4. I have the right to establish my own relationship standards.

5. I have the right to say “no” to anything when saying “yes” feels wrong for me.

6. I have the right to honor my instincts and heed inner-voice.

7. I have the right to end conversations I find offensive.

8. I have the right to voice the truth of my lived experiences.

9. I have the right to make mistakes and learn from them.

10. I have the right to prioritize self-help and self-care.

11. I have the right to express my feelings and honor my emotions.

12. I have the right to make my own judgement calls. 

13. I have the right to change my mind.

14. I have the right to expect my home to be my safe sanctuary.

15. I have the right to personal time and space.

16. I have the right to be serious.

17. I have the right to be playful and silly.

18. I have the right to decline a compromise when it doesn’t feel healthy for me.

19. I have the right to grow and outgrow.

20. I have the right to require open lines of communication.

21. I have the right to let go of unhealthy situations and relationships.

22. I have the right to grieve my losses on my own timeline.

23. I have the right not to trust anyone I don’t feel is trustworthy.

24. I have the right to establish and maintain my own boundaries.

25. I have the right not to forgive when forgiving doesn’t feel safe, comfortable or appropriate for me.


We often get pressured, guilt-tripped and shamed for taking care of ourselves, voicing our discomfort or honoring our boundaries. Whenever I feel that way, I re-read the Personal Bill of Rights.